I figure even though I'm not ready to actually TRY dating, there's no harm in reading up on it. So for the last few months, I've been reading a few of the relationship/dating advice blogs that abound on the Web. One of my favorites is Evan's.
He's a dating coach & a published author, and I like the way he answers the questions he gets.
Chemistry is mentioned fairly often in people's questions, and one of the answers Evan gave
was sort of an "A-Ha" moment for me - essentially that chemistry is not, and does not necessarily indicate, compatibility. Wow. Now maybe some people instinctively know that, or intellectually realize it, but I have a feeling that I did neither. For me, it was a brand new way of looking at chemistry. It makes sense, now that I think about it, but wow.
The other thing that has shocked me as I've been reading these blogs is that people seem to, as a standard practice, have sex awfully early on in new relationships. Or just dating. Like anywhere from the first date, to within the first week, to within the first month. Now, I love sex, but I must be an extreme prude, 'cause that's certainly not what I hope to do whenever I do decide to start dating. Not that I've never
done some of those things - I slept with my now-ex-husband on our very first date - but as Standard Operating Procedure? No way.
So I guess I won't be doing much long-term dating, huh?